The easiest way to meet a pretty (poo sao ngam) Lao girl, handsome (poo sai law) Lao man or 'katoey' is by experiencing the Vientiane night scene.
Lao people still tend to label without malice anyone from gay male or tom (lesbian) to transvestite or transgender 'shemale' as kathoey.
The dogma further maintains that everyone may experience masculine and feminine forms in different 'lifetimes' or even during the same one.
Traditional 'logic of invisibility' allows any kind of social behaviour as long as it neither hurts nor offends anyone else. The Lao people as a rule are tolerant and accepting by their Buddhist-influenced nature, and have quite open attitudes to sexual and gender preference. Thailand promotes this noticeably with live TV shows.
In this part of Asia at least, it's not uncommon for a self-perceived normal heterosexual male to have fun and even sex with someone who appears to be (or wants to be seen and treated as) 'female', whether born that way or not. two basically 'normal' males having sex also exists in Asian society, but as long A survey of the sexual behaviour of men in Vientiane reveals that a significant percentage of Lao males (heterosexual in their own eyes) experience sex with other men, usually gays or katoey, for fun or for money, and more likely after drinking a lot of alcohol.Karaoke is everywhere.college and university students as well as the many unemployed being supported by the family (another strong Lao tradition).Most will have money enough to buy a couple of drinks. Local families often rely on regular support from relatives living overseas, mainly in the USA; this seems to give many young Vientiane people little incentive to work or even consider looking for jobs.Although virtually everyone has a mobile phone or tablet these days with internet (and Facebook access), Internet shops are still popular in Vientiane, not only for tourists but many young Lao women and men 'video-chatting' with friends at home and overseas.Some are looking for more than friendship with visiting foreigners. With the help of relatively cheap cosmetic surgery available in nearby Thailand, young men can be transformed into the women they already feel they are 'inside' and wanted to be from an early age.